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Sex and a Larger Wisdom

Keep to a path far from her,
    do not go near the door of her house

Proverbs 5:8 (NIV)

One of the challenges in the reading of ancient wisdom is embracing the historical, cultural, and social differences I find rather than letting them get in the way. In our current culture of reactivity and the quick dismissal of anything that doesn’t fit neatly in the personal box of my world view, I’m afraid many miss out on the larger wisdom that is still there for anyone willing to see it.

The role and status of women in ancient cultures is a fascinating study. Just a few chapters ago I wrote about the fact that when the ancients personified wisdom she was a woman. Contrasting that honoring celebration of the feminine, today’s chapter is a head-scratching corollary. Solomon warns his son to beware of a caricatured predator: the adulterous woman.

It seems hypocritical for King Solomon to preach such monogamous virtue to his son, given the fact that the “wise” King was recorded to have had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Of course, it could also be argued that he was writing out of the pain of his own folly, as it is also recorded that he was “led astray” by having 1000 women at his disposal (though I doubt he was an unwilling victim).

Along my life journey, I’ve experienced that it takes two to do the tango of adultery. The peddling of forbidden sexual fruit is not discriminatory by gender, nor is the temptation to taste its pleasures. It is also my observation that gender is inconsequential when it comes to matters of seduction, sexual temptation, sexual surrender, promiscuous relationships and the bitter consequences typically experienced at the dead-end of those paths. It would be foolish of me not to look past the cultural differences between the ancient Hebrews and my own time to see the larger wisdom that Sophia has to share for anyone willing to listen to what she has to say about the foolishness of sexual promiscuity.

In the quiet this morning I find folly and wisdom in multiple layers. There is the obvious folly of promiscuity and the wisdom of relational fidelity presented in the text. I also find the folly of what I see on both sides of our current cultural discourse, in which I can easily be dismissive of others who don’t comfortably fit inside the box of my comfortable world-view. I find there is typically larger wisdom present if I’m willing to seek her out.

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About This Post

These chapter-a-day posts began in 2006. It’s a very simple concept. I endeavor each weekday to read one chapter from the Bible. I then blog about my thoughts, insights, and feelings about the content of that chapter. Everyone is welcome to share this post, like this post, or add your own thoughts in a comment. Thank you to those who have become faithful, regular or occasional readers along the journey along with your encouragement.

In 2019 I began creating posts for each book, with an indexed list of all the chapters for that book. You can find the indexed list by clicking on this link.

Prior to that, I kept a cataloged index of all posts on one page. You can access that page by clicking on this link.

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Proverbs (Feb/Mar 2020)

Each photo below corresponds to a chapter-a-day post for the book of Proverbs published by Tom Vander Well in February/March of 2020. Click on the photo linked to each chapter to read the post.

Chapter 1: Lady Sophia
Chapter 2: Wise Companions
Chapter 3: Play Ball
Chapter 4: Embodying Wisdom and Love
Chapter 5: Sex and a Larger Wisdom
Chapter 6: A Common Complaint
Chapter 7: Sister Wisdom
Chapter 8: An Observation
Chapter 9: On Media and Personalities
Chapter 10: My Secret to a Good Night’s Sleep
Chapter 11: A Generous Confession
Chapter 12: All Worthwhile Things
Chapter 13: False Fronts
Chapter 14: Moving Upstream
Chapter 15: Footnote to a Proverb
Chapter 16: Plans and Purposes
Chapter 17: Sad Endings
Chapter 18: Words of Life or Death
Chapter 19: Silly Things I Could Be
Chapter 20: Spiritual Seasons
Chapter 21: The Pursuit
Chapter 22: Panic, Prudence, and a Prediction
Chapter 23: Because I Can, Doesn’t Mean I Should
Chapter 24: A Friend’s Example
Chapter 25: Up for the Fight!
Chapter 26: Poison on the Team
Chapter 27: Remember: Getting My Head and Heart Aligned
Chapter 28: The Adult Version
Chapter 29: More Than Words

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Top Ten Chapter-a-Day Posts of 2019

From the home office in Pella, Iowa. Here are the Top 10 chapter-a-day posts from 2019:

Luke 2: Grappling with the Unexpected
Daniel 2: When Life Throws a Wicked Curve
Titus 3: Simply Walk Away
2 Corinthians 5: Creation and Re-Creation
Nehemiah 6: Musing on Mudslinging
2 Corinthians 4: Outward Groaning, Inward Growing
Philemon: Broken Relationships and Divine Purpose
Esther 9: “If You Only Knew What it Was Like”
1 John 2: High Fidelity Follower
Ezra 3: Weeping and Joy in the Valley of Infertility

Luke (Dec 2019)

Each photo below corresponds to each chapter-a-day post for the book of the Gospel of Luke published by Tom Vander Well in December 2019. Click on the photo linked to each chapter to read the post

Chapter 1: Grappling with “Never”
Chapter 2: Grappling with the Unexpected
Chapter 3: An Ancient Ritual; A Fresh Perspective
Chapter 4: New Ways, Old Ways, and the Inside-Out
Chapter 5: Let Good Rule
Chapter7: Finding God Inside and Outside the Box
Chapter 8: Do I Want Him to Come, or to Go?
Chapter 9: The Pressure of Preparation
Chapter 10: Middle of Nowhere
Chapter 11: Scarcity Thinking Before the God of Infinite Resources
Chapter 12: Acute Worry Warts
Chapter 13: Opposite Instinct
Chapter 14: A Seat at the Table
Chapter 15: Muttering
Chapter 16: Observations of a Mentor
Chapter 17: Yes and Yes and Yes and Yes
Chapter 18: Embracing the Tough Role
Chapter 19: Open Spiritual Eyes
Chapter 20: Lord Protectors of Orthodoxy and Tradition
Chapter 21: Taking a Wrecking Ball to the Edifice Complex of Christianity
Chapter 22: The Look
Chapter 23: Execution Lessons

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Chapter 24: Ladies First
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1 Peter (Nov 2019)

Each photo below corresponds to the chapter-a-day post for the book of 1 Peter published by Tom Vander Well in October 2019. Click on the photo linked to each chapter to read the post

Chapter 1: The Sower and the Seeds
Chapter 2: The Priest Paradigm
Chapter 3: “Bless You”
Chapter 4: The Mystery of Uncertainty
Chapter 5: The Flow and Right Timing

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Zechariah (Oct/nov 2019)

Each photo below corresponds to the chapter-a-day post for the book of Zechariah published by Tom Vander Well in October 2019. Click on the photo linked to each chapter to read the post.

Chapter 1: The Pessimist
Chapter 2: Measuring Up for a Move
Chapter 3: No Apology Necessary
Chapter 4: Weathering the Storms
Chapter 5: A Tale of Two Building Projects
Chapter 6: Mystery and Knowledge
Chapter 7: Reflections on a Sneeze
Chapter 8: Hope Needs a Description
Chapter 9: A Different Kind of Kingdom
Chapter 10: Wander and Return
Chapter 11: Poet, Chorus, Character
Chapter 12: Pierced
Chapter 13: God in my Suffering
Chapter 14: The Important Thing
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