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Learning to Observe

Those who led the way rebuked him and told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!”
Luke 18:39 (NIV)

When I was in college studying acting, my professor sent us on an unusual assignment. He sent us a few miles up the road to a busy shopping mall. We were told to sit in the middle of the mall for at least two hours.

Watch people.
Really observe them.
How they move.
Their unusual tics.
The particular way they behave with others.

The goal was to teach me as an actor about creating a realistic and believable character on stage. It’s more than memorizing lines and regurgitating them on stage. It’s about creating a real person.

With a particular gate to his walk.
Mannerisms unique to his character.
A specific way he reacts and responds physically.

That lesson profited me far beyond my training for the stage.
The importance of observation was an entire life-lesson.
It had spiritual implications.

In my daily life. On this chapter-a-day journey.
I keep the eyes and ears of my heart open.
Observing.
Watching for patterns, repetition, and surprises.

As I read and meditated on today’s chapter, I noticed something.

The chapter is book-ended with a parable and an episode.
There’s a connection.

The parable concerns a judge and an old widow.
A widow in the culture of Jesus’ day was a nobody.
Marginalized.
Poor.
Zero social status.
Everyday she begged the judge to hear her case.
Everyday.
She made herself annoying.
Until the judge heard the case just to shut her up.

At the end of the chapter, Jesus is walking through a crowd.
On the side of the road was a blind man.
A beggar.
He shouts, “Jesus, son of David, have mercy on me!”
Again. And again. And again.
Annoyed, those around him tell him to shut up.
He yells louder.
Jesus stops. Calls the man over, and heals him.

The widow knocked on the judge’s door.
The blind man shouted into the crowd.
Different scenes. Same audacity.

A week or so ago, I was struck by a similar parable Jesus told.
The neighbor who begs for bread at midnight.
Shameless audacity.
Socially inappropriate.

What struck me as I meditated on these things this morning was that I was observing a pattern in the parables and stories that are lifting off the page for me in the quiet.

Prayer.
Pleading.
Persistence.
A holy refusal to be ignored.

It’s a Holy Spirit whisper.

“Pray Tom.
Keep praying.
Be bold.
Be audacious.
Don’t stop.
Try to annoy me.”

And so in the quiet this morning and observable pattern informs me of my marching orders.

And with that, I will finish this post.

I have some praying to do.

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Grace in the Journey: Given and Received

We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up.
Romans 15:1-2 (NIV)

Annoying to be around. That was the bottom line. Abrasive, abrupt, and usually off in left field in most matters. I can still remember the silly arguments and petty details that occupied this person’s thoughts and conversation at, seemingly, all times. It was hard not to roll my eyes and want to head for the nearest exit when the mouth opened and the judgmental, legalistic rhetoric began to flow. Nevertheless, this person was a sincere follower of Jesus. Truly, despite all the annoyance. And, this person was a part of my local community of Jesus’ followers.

Sometimes the Message is ill-served by the way early scholars divided it into chapters and verses. One of the best study tools I’ve experienced is to read the different books and letters without all the chapter breaks and verse references. It’s amazing what you see differently. When I’m reading a chapter-a-day, I can easily forget that today’s chapter is connected to yesterday’s chapter as well as being a lead-in to tomorrow’s chapter. When I read it in prescribed, daily chunks it’s easy to lose context.

Today’s chapter is like that. In yesterday’s chapter Paul addressed the conflicts that can arise because of differences in culture, background, heritage, and traditions. People from different tribes have all sorts of differing, non-essential rules about food, clothing, special days, rituals, and the like. These aren’t necessarily bad things, but they’re by no means essential to being a follower of Jesus.

The first two verses of today’s chapter are really a summation of yesterday’s chapter. Paul ends this conversation by saying that those believers who have the grace and maturity to see that all of these rules, customs and traditions don’t matter to God, should bear with those who do. We could argue about it, get self-righteous about it, and then watch the emotions escalate as the conversation sinks into anger, name calling, discord, division, and even to hatred. Paul urges the mature believer to graciously channel the fruit of Holy Spirit towards those who are stuck in their traditions and rituals: love, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control.

In my memory banks this morning are a number of fellow believers, like the one I described at the top of this post, who I’ve shared part of my journey with in this or that community. I’m seeing their faces and laughing to myself at some of the memories.

In the quiet I am also reminded of my own immaturity, particularly in the early years of my spiritual journey. I confess that I have my own annoying quirks and have, through the years, embraced my own share of non-essential, petty thoughts as well as silly moral or religious causes. I have very specific memories of me being the source of rolling eyes and bit tongues. Now, in hindsight, I can appreciate the forbearance my elders and peers showed me in loving, kind, patient, and gentle fashion. Thank you for that, if you’re reading this.

I’m on this journey with every other person who is on their own respective journey. Each of us are having our own conversation with Life. Grace (undeserved and unearned favor) is required. Sometimes it’s required that we receive it. Sometimes it’s required that we give it. It’s the only way we’ll successfully reach our destination together and progress to that which is beyond.