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Due Time

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.
1 Peter 5:6 (NIV)

I sat at the local pub one afternoon journaling. Without warning a thunderstorm of ideas rolled in. I began thinking about all of the life lessons I have gained as a result of my career.

Customer complaints are rarely about the complaint.
Systems shape souls.”
Everyone wants to make rules out of exceptions.”

If you had told me when I was a teenager that I would spend over three decades of my life analyzing tens of thousands of business interactions between clients and their customers I would have invited you to go take a long walk off a short pier. That would have been among the last things on this earth I would want to spend my life doing. Besides, I had my entire life dream planned out.

College. Seminary. Pastoral ministry. Preacher. Author.

God had other plans.

Over 100,000 business phone calls, emails, and chats analyzed. Customer research.
Front-line coaching and training.
Executive strategy sessions.

I was good at it. My gifts and abilities dove-tailed perfectly with the job.

There I sat at the bar writing down all of the lessons I’d learned on this, long, strange trip I called a career. Not just business lessons. Life lessons. Spiritual lessons. Lessons about relationships and human interaction. Lessons about systems that apply universally across humanity. They poured right out of me onto the pages of my journal.

When the storm receded I looked at the list. This was the foundational content of a book. I just knew it.

That was well over a decade ago. The idea sat quietly in my journal for years. It wasn’t forgotten. I thought about it all the time. I even had one occasion in which I spoke seriously with a publisher about it, but the opportunity wasn’t right.

I waited. And, I waited.

My soul aches when I have to sit on a great idea.

Last May I was invited to a Zoom networking meeting with a man named Michael through another networking contact I know in Puerto Rico. I have these kinds of networking meetings all the time. You never know who you’re going to meet. I scheduled the meeting with Michael. I had no idea what he did.

As Michael began sharing his story, something funny happened. I discovered right up front that Michael was a believer. He and his wife had spent years working for a ministry I knew very well. I had a former employer who worked for the same ministry. Our stories were eerily similar.

We both chased ministry.
We both tasted disappointment.
God had rerouted both of us into business.

Michael became a publisher of books about business.

In today’s final chapter of Peter’s first letter, Peter tells his readers to humble themselves before God. I often think of humility as an attitude, but Peter speaks of it as being an action to be taken. Humility isn’t thinking lowly of myself, it’s placing myself willingly under God’s hand.

I’ve learned along my journey that humbling myself before God is really all about surrender.

“Whatever you want from me God.”
“I surrender my will as I embrace and pursue the passions you gave me.”
“I will continually ask, seek, and knock as I press on one day at a time.”

Approaching life with this posture, Peter writes that God “may lift you up in due time.”

Which means that humbling myself before God also requires that I trust God’s timing.

In a brainstorm at the pub God gave me the seeds of a book.
Then He buried it in the soil of time for over a decade

But that didn’t mean it was dead. I thought about it. The lessons marinated in my mind and soul. I added lessons to the list. I continued to make mental and spiritual connections.

The seeds germinated.

They grew roots.

Then one day I had a random Zoom meeting with a man name Michael.

The fruit will be available for you to taste in just a few weeks when the book is published.

I have learned along life’s road that there is a timing to the Story that God is authoring in me.

If I’m going to trust the Story. I have to trust His timing.

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Of Covenant and Mystery

The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may follow all the words of this law.
Deuteronomy 29:29 (NIV)

One of the most painful and difficult seasons of my earthly journey was the dissolution of my first marriage. It’s not a dull, focused pain, but a sharp one that branches in many directions. There are so many places it touches. There are my own personal failings and poor choices. There is the 20-20 hindsight of the many things I could have and should have said and/or done – things to which I was woefully blind at the time. There are the painful consequences and ripple effects that the end of the marriage thrust upon one another, our daughters, and those in our circles of relationship.

I remember two very strong and honest reactions from our young teen daughters at the time. I found these two to be ironic opposites. On one hand, they had seen and perceived more than I realized. A piece of them was not surprised. On the other hand, there was a desire — shot out like a demand — to know everything. A teenager’s personal Freedom of Information Act petition, proclaiming her right to know everything about the breakdown of her parents’ marriage.

What was received was disappointment. Some things might be shared and understood with time, maturity, and life experience. Time and distance is required for some things to be viewed in proper context. And, there are other things that will remain hidden, things understood only by the two who shared them.

On this life journey, not everything is meant to be known.

In today’s chapter, Moses stands before all of the Hebrews and ratifies God’s covenant with them. The Jordan River flowing behind him and the Promised Land in the distance, the ancient leader says, “Before you cross, look back.”

This chapter ratifies the covenant anew—not just for those who saw Egypt crack open, but for everyone standing there… and everyone yet unborn.

Blessing and curse are laid bare. Obedience brings life like rain on dry ground; rebellion brings rot, exile, and future nations asking, “What happened here?”

And then comes the line that purrs and growls at the same time:

“The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever…”

Mystery stays veiled. Responsibility does not.

One of the most profound truths I’ve had to learn to embrace as a follower of Jesus is that mystery is intimately woven into the journey.

Some eyes see but don’t perceive.
Some ears hear but don’t understand.
Some things are hidden, even from God’s own Son.

“But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.”
Matthew 24:36 (NIV)

Some things remain a mystery. The angsty teenager within me filing my own personal Freedom of Information Act petitions with my heavenly Father had to learn to live with disappointment.

Further in my journey, I found that disappointment eventually gave way to humility and faith. As I attempt to follow in Jesus’ footsteps I find in His own example a peace and complete trust to leave certain knowledge with the Father, despite what I might argue is His divine right to demand it.

That final verse of today’s covenant renewal falls like a gentle, holy hand on my shoulder this morning:

I am not required to solve God.
am required to respond to Him.

Some things remain veiled. That’s okay.
But what has been revealed—love God, walk humbly, choose life—that belongs to me. Today. Right now.

So with humility and faith, I sign my name again in the quiet.
And I walk into a new work week embraced by covenant and mystery.

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Stiff-Necked, Still Chosen

Understand, then, that it is not because of your righteousness that the Lord your God is giving you this good land to possess, for you are a stiff-necked people.
Deuteronomy 9:6 (NIV)

Yesterday’s post faded to black with me and Wendy sitting at the breakfast table naming our blessings and whispering after-meal blessing of gratitude. If I’m not careful, this chapter-a-day journey too easily compartmentalizes each chapter. While I love the rhythm of letting one chapter speak in to my day, I try not to forget that there is a flow to the text. Yesterday’s chapter and today’s chapter are connected.

Yesterday’s chapter and my meditations fit hand-in-glove with the Christmas season. My soft heart loves Christmas. Every day brings cards and photos of family and friends we don’t see often enough. With each one are fond memories and good feelings. Wendy and I have been watching beloved Christmas movies (yes, Die Hard is a Christmas movie) and feeling all the feels. Family gatherings are planned. I can feel the desire to be together, to name our blessings, and to feel the gratitude.

This is sentimental remembering. Warm feelings, meaningful memories, and full hearts that feed the positive emotional endorphins. That’s where I exited yesterday’s post.

Today’s chapter, however, channels a very different kind of remembering.

Moses stands at the Jordan River with this next generation of Hebrews gazing across at the Promised Land. They are about to cross over and take possession of it while Moses stays behind and takes his final earthly breath. They will take the land. They will be blessed. They will prosper. But, Moses tells them, there is a truth that needs to sink deep into their hearts before they set out. It is a truth so spiritually vital that Moses repeats it three times like Jesus asking Peter three times: “Do you love me?”

…do not say to yourself, “The Lord has brought me here to take possession of this land because of my righteousness.” (vs. 4)

 It is not because of your righteousness or your integrity that you are going in to take possession of their land… (vs. 5)

Understand, then, that it is not because of your righteousness that the Lord your God is giving you this good land to possess, for you are a stiff-necked people. (vs. 6)

Moses then painfully and deliberately hits the rewind button:

Golden calf.
Stiff necks.
Tablets shattered like dropped china.
Tear-stained intercession that kept the nation from annihilation.

The message lands bare and unflattering:

You didn’t earn this.
You didn’t deserve this.
And you still don’t.

Which—oddly enough—is very good news.

This is what is known in Hebrew as zakhor—not memory as the emotional fog of sentimentality, but memory as moral restraint.

It is Cain remembering the stain of his own brother’s blood on his hands.

It is Abraham remembering the painful casting away of Hagar and his son Ishmael.

It is Israel remembering that he was a deceiver who stole his brother’s blessing.

It is Moses remembering his murder of an Egyptian overseer, fleeing for his life, and his years of living on the lam in Midian exile.

It is David remembering his adultery with Bathsheba, his murder of her husband, and the death of their first-born child.

It is Paul seeing the face of Stephen and all of the other believers he persecuted and had executed before he met Jesus on the road to Damascus.

It is me remembering my long list of moral failings. Failings that trace all the way back to being a five-year-old stealing all the envelopes of Christmas cash off of Grandma Golly’s Christmas tree and hiding them in my suitcase.

In the quiet this morning, sentimental twinkle-light memories get balanced with the sobriety of zakhor memories. Moral memory isn’t shame, it’s schooling. It’s not reproach, it’s reinforcement of reality.

All of this abundance of blessing that surrounds me each day? The blessing that is so abundant that I sometimes forget that’s it’s a blessing?

I didn’t earn this.
I didn’t deserve this.
And I still don’t.

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.”

Moses is channeling the Gospel of Jesus 1500 years before Bethlehem.

As I soak in a little moral remembering this morning, I find my heart humbled. Like the Hebrews standing on the border of the Promised Land, I find myself chosen, called, and blessed – not because of who I am and what I’ve done but despite it.

Sometimes the fog of sentimental remembering lulls me into thinking that blessing is an entitlement. Moral remembering cuts through the fog and grounds me in the reality of His grace.

As Bob Dylan sings,
“like every sparrow fallen,
like every grain of sand.”

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Revelation

Son though he was, he learned obedience from what he suffered and, once made perfect, he became the source of eternal salvation for all who obey him and was designated by God to be high priest in the order of Melchizedek.
Hebrews 5:8-10 (NIV)

I have of late been making my way through all seven books of the Harry Potter epic. I just finished the fifth book, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, which I sometimes find to be the least enjoyable but have always found to be the most profound in its understanding and expression of the differences between good and evil.

The book concludes with a climactic battle. The evil antagonist, Voldemort, is doing everything in his power to escape death and achieve immortality. He even proclaims amidst the battle that “there is nothing worse than death.” To which the ever-wise sage, Dumbldore, replies, “Yes, there is.” Throughout the book, Harry suffers many things on many different levels from the agonies of a failed teen romance, to heinous oppression and physical suffering at the hands of institutional evil, to the death of the one person he cares for most in the world.

As Dumbledore debriefs with Harry at the conclusion of the book, he shares with Harry about a deep and ancient magic that the evil Voldemort fails to understand, the magic that Harry’s mother accessed the moment she sacrificed her own life for Harry’s when he was an infant. The wise headmaster then explains to Harry another paradoxical truth that evil fails to understand. It is Harry’s suffering that is his greatest strength.

Today’s very short chapter is so packed full of deep and important truths from the Great Story that I’ve sat in the quiet for a long time trying to discern how best to express them. The author speaks to his audience of Jewish believers in Jesus, themselves suffering at the hands of institutional evil, about Jesus who is the “Great High Priest.”

For the Jewish believers, the paradigm of a high priest was well-known to them. It was part of the religious ritual they’d known their whole lives. The high-priest was the only one who entered the most holy place in the temple once a year to make atonement for the sins of the people. The priests were always a descendant of Moses’ brother, Aaron.

But, the author reveals that there is mysterious, ancient priestly order that came before God gave the Law through Moses and the human priesthood was established. This mysterious ancient order is tied to an equally mysterious king-priest who appears momentarily in Genesis 14. His name was Melchizedek. Jesus, the Son of God, was not an earthly priest in the order of Aaron, but an eternal and royal high priest in the order of Melchizedek.

He then goes onto explain that what marked Jesus as the Great High Priest, was not power and glory. Power and glory are what evil and the Kingdoms of this world care about most. What marked Jesus as the Great High Priest of God’s Kingdom was his humility, obedience, and suffering.

The author then issues a gentle rebuke to his readers. There is so much more depth and spiritual truth to unpack in this, but his readers aren’t ready for it because they “no longer try to understand.” The Greek word hints at being sluggish and lazy. Along my journey, I’ve come to realize that there are certain spiritual truths that require effort, pursuit, experience, and even suffering in order for them to be revealed. Jesus said, after all, that the things of God’s Kingdom are not for the sluggish and lazy, but for those who ask, seek, and knock — even suffer.

It is at the end of Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix that the truth is finally revealed to Harry regarding his past, his scar, his place in the story that is unfolding, and the realities that await him in the battle against evil yet to come.

Sometimes the deepest and most important spiritual truths only reveal themselves in suffering.

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Trailblazer

In bringing many sons and daughters to glory, it was fitting that God, for whom and through whom everything exists, should make the pioneer of their salvation perfect through what he suffered.
Hebrews 2:10 (NIV)

A month or so ago I had to make a trip to northwest Iowa for work. I decided to take a little extra time on that gorgeous autumn day to enjoy the road trip. The Missouri River provides Iowa’s western border and along this stretch is a geological formation, Loess Hills, that is only found one other place on Earth, in China. I took my time traveling up the backroads of Loess Hills and along the Missouri River Valley. The featured photo on today’s post is one I took that afternoon.

220 years ago, Lewis & Clark and the Corp of Discovery made their way up the Missouri River along the same stretch. The only member of that legendary crew of pioneers to die on the voyage, Sergeant William Floyd, did so near Sioux City, where my meanderings led that afternoon. The references to Floyd, Lewis, and Clark are everywhere in that part of the state, from highways to backroads to towns, and rivers.

“Pioneer” is layered with meaning for many Americans. My very life here in Iowa is rooted in my pioneer great-grandfather who risked all to leave the Netherlands as a young man and, by himself, create a new life in America. American history itself is steeped in the legendary stories of pioneers like Lewis and Clark who blazed the trail for others.

It was the word “pioneer” that leapt off the page at me in the quiet this morning. It’s not a word that appears anywhere in the Great Story except two uses by the author of Hebrews. The Greek word translated “pioneer” is archēgos which comes from two words, the first meaning “origin” or “first” and the second “to lead.”

Jesus was the first to lead. He was the trailblazer. In yesterday’s chapter, Jesus was described as the celestial Alpha of all creation. In today’s chapter, the author of Hebrews brings the divine trailblazer to the humble dusty human trail of earthly existence. Jesus blazed the “trail of salvation” right here, by being one of us, experiencing this world of woe right along side us, and suffering the same human death that awaits each one of us. The God who spoke galaxies into being also whispers comfort beside our hospital beds and tax forms and broken dreams. He doesn’t rescue from afar; He wades into the flood beside us. He sanctifies our suffering by sharing it.

My meditations this morning led me to dig deeper into the Greek word archēgos because I suspected there was an etymological connection to another English word: archetype. Sure enough, the two words share the same Greek root. The words are related much like the author of Hebrews describes the pioneering Jesus making us all family. The English word archetype is from the Greek archétypon meaning “first form” or “original pattern.” Which makes the author’s choice of archēgos in today’s chapter all the more poetic: Jesus isn’t merely one who leads; He’s the original pattern of all who follow, the archetypal pioneer.

I don’t know about you, but it’s easy for me to feel small and unseen in the long daily slog of this earthly journey. I’m reminded this morning that I am following in the steps of the original pioneer. The One who “was made a little lower than the angels” has already walked this valley and suffered through it — and in His footprints, glory grows. These footprints will lead me home.

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I’d Rather Be the Ass

When the donkey saw the angel of the Lord standing in the road with a drawn sword in his hand, it turned off the road into a field. Balaam beat it to get it back on the road.
Numbers 22:23 (NIV)

The world has always had spiritual gurus willing to take your money in exchange for blessing you with their presence and insight as they bask in the wealth and fame of their personal spiritual empires. In the days that the Hebrews were making their way through the wilderness to the Promised Land, the spiritual guru was a man named Balaam.

For any who think that Balaam is simply cute Sunday School myth, it should be noted that in 1967 a Dutch archaeologist unearthed an inscription in Mesopotamia written in a mash-up of semitic dialects that reads, “Warnings from the Book of Balaam son of Beor. He was a seer of the gods.” The inscription is dated to the 8th-9th century B.C. The context that it adds to today’s chapter is that Balaam was a famous spiritual guru of his day who played the field. He moved in and through all the cults, religions, and deities of that day. I find it easy to read the story and sense that he might have been a believer in Yahweh, the reality is that he was a believer in every god. He made his fame and fortune as a guru for hire no matter what religious persuasion his clients came from.

In today’s famous chapter, Balaam is riding his donkey to meet his newest client, the King of Moab who wants Balaam to curse the Hebrew tribes camped near his city. Three times (I don’t think that number is a coincidence) the Angel of the Lord stands in the way. The donkey sees the Angel of the Lord and moves to avoid him. Balaam doesn’t see the angel and beats his poor donkey mercilessly. God grants the donkey the ability to speak to its master and promptly asks why he’s being beaten when he was trying to save his master’s life. Balaam’s eyes were then opened and he saw the Angel of the Lord, too.

As I meditated on the story, what struck me is the fact that the great spiritual guru of his day was actually spiritually blind. His own ass could plainly see into the spirit realm and see the Angel of the Lord, while the famous guru could not. Balaam was happy to spiritually contort himself for profit and honor. His poor beast of burden, however, recognized the truth of the situation and was steadfast in responding to that truth no matter the pain and injustice it caused him to have to endure.

In the quiet this morning, I find myself reminded to be discerning and humble. Those with enough spiritual insight and hubris to earn themselves fame and fortune does not mean that they see or perceive simple Truth. In the grand scheme of things, I’d rather be an ass who can at least see the Angel of Lord when appears right in front of me, and has the sense to doggedly heed that reality no matter the consequences.

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Systemic Dysfunction

[Levite community leaders] came as a group to oppose Moses and Aaron and said to them, “You have gone too far! The whole community is holy, every one of them, and the Lord is with them. Why then do you set yourselves above the Lord’s assembly?”
Numbers 16:3 (NIV)

Albert Einstein once said, “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.”

Along my life journey, I’ve observed a few things that have been true in both business and churches.

  1. Individuals have different gifts and callings that, when deployed appropriately, benefit the entire system and help it function in a healthy way.
  2. Individuals sometimes desire to be, or firmly believe that they are, gifted or called in ways that they simply are not. These individuals will often attack those who have these gifts, roles, or the power structure of the system in order to make their desires or beliefs be true. This detrimentally undermines the entire system.
  3. Individuals are sometimes placed by leadership to positions and roles that are incongruent with their gifts and callings. Other times circumstances force people into roles for which they are not suited. In either situation, the system will experience strain and will not function at peak health or productivity.

In the books of Exodus and Leviticus God establishes a system in which His fledgling Hebrew community of former slaves is to function. The system establishes order for healthy spiritual, physical, relational, and community function. All the Hebrew people have to do is to obey the rules and contentedly function within the system as it has been established.

However, not everyone is willing to do so.

Two of Aaron’s sons impertinently made light of their priestly duties. Most of the spies, plagued by fear and doubt, lied and exaggerated to enflame the people against entering the Promised Land.

In today’s chapter, a group of Levite leaders rebel against Moses and Aaron. Their motivations and complaints are layered, but what is clear is that they are envious of Moses and Aaron’s leadership, they are discontent with their roles as Levites and want the positions of priests and prophets to which Moses, Aaron, and Aaron’s sons have been called. Their discontent is fueled by the hardships they’ve experienced as well as listening to (and participating in) perpetual grumbling and complaints. Ironically, they also criticize Moses and Aaron for not simply delivering the Promised Land that they themselves refused to enter out of their own fear and doubts. Their envy, jealousy, discontent, and critical spirits have blinded themselves to their own destructive thoughts and behaviors.

God’s solution appears to be purging the system of the dysfunctional and destructive parts. I find it telling that Moses and Aaron humbly plead and act on behalf of the misguided crazymakers in the system. Moses’ attitude and actions are downright Christlike.

In the quiet this morning, I can’t help but think about the businesses, organizations, and churches in which I’ve encountered the very same dysfunctions, envies, jealousies, critical spirits, and self-seeking demands that Moses and Aaron encountered in today’s chapter. These dysfunctions are still with us today because all human systems, just like the Hebrews in the wilderness, continue to function in a fallen world utilizing human beings given to their own sinful pride and self-centered appetites.

Which leaves me with a choice to make. Will I operate, lead, and exemplify the humility and grace Moses demonstrates – and the fruit of God’s Spirit to which Jesus calls me to respond to all people in every situation? Or, will I fall into the trap of human envy, discontent, selfish ambition, and the critical spirit to which they inevitably lead?

A good question to ponder on a Monday morning heading into a new work week. I know what I choose. You?

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Paul’s Pissing Match

Neither do we go beyond our limits by boasting of work done by others. Our hope is that, as your faith continues to grow, our sphere of activity among you will greatly expand, so that we can preach the gospel in the regions beyond you. For we do not want to boast about work already done in someone else’s territory.
2 Corinthians 10:15-16 (NIV)

I began my vocational journey back in the 1980s in full-time vocational church ministry. I shifted for a short time to full-time “para-church” ministry (a non-profit ministry organization outside of a church). I eventually was led in my vocational journey to the business world which is definitely a ministry, but my experience is that it is commonly not regarded as such within the ministry world of institutional churches. Nor was it regarded as such by my own mother who would have always preferred that I got my paycheck from a church rather than a corporation, God rest her soul.

For over 30 years I’ve served various roles in the institutional church as someone who is not a paid staff member, while spending the vast majority of my time and earning the vast majority of my income in the business world. What I’ve experienced as a result is occasional misunderstanding and mistrust. I don’t fit inside the normal paradigm, which I have learned makes people uncomfortable and/or there is confusion about motives, needs, paradigms, and boundaries. I’ve observed that human beings tend to like things operating within simple, well-defined boxes that fit their own comfortable expectations. When you factor in that we’re operating within an institution of faith it can take on all sorts of religious overtones.

Occasionally, the consequence is that I have found myself in an old-fashioned pissing contest prompted by individuals who have questioned my motives, credentials, authority, and sincerity.

I’ve equally observed that most people fail to understand that Paul was constantly experiencing identical struggles.

  • Paul was not part of The Twelve, so he constantly faced opposition from some who felt he didn’t measure up because he wasn’t part of the Movement from the beginning. He didn’t hang out with Jesus by the Sea of Galilee.
  • Before Jesus appeared to him and called him, Paul had been an enemy of the Jesus Movement. He imprisoned Jesus’ followers and oversaw their executions. For some individuals, no amount of repentance or evidence of Paul’s sincere faith were good enough to overcome their nagging mistrust.
  • Wherever he went, Paul didn’t behave like The Twelve and other leaders within the emerging church who were paid staff members vocationally focused on the Jesus Movement. Rather, Paul spent most of his day earning his income by plying his family’s tent-making trade. He learned the trade growing up. He became a full-time religious lawyer in the institutional Jewish establishment. After becoming a follower of Jesus, he went back to his childhood trade and made a living daily at “Paul’s Quality Tent & Awning, Inc.” while still serving the church ministry as an Apostle. Paul did this because 1) he believed and taught that everyone should work and earn their own way and 2) he didn’t want to be a financial burden on the church. People didn’t like this, however. It was strange and made him suspect. It wasn’t the normal way that Peter and the others “real” Apostles do it. I can hear it now: “If he was a real Apostle, he’d be on paid staff. I don’t know. There’s just something weird about it.”
  • Even within the broader circles of leaders within the Jesus Movement, there was a sense of those who were more acceptable, more polished, and more gifted at this or that than Paul. Paul confesses that he wasn’t much to look at, nor was he a particularly gifted speaker. At one point, a kid fell asleep listening to him, fell out a window, and died. Paul had to miraculously raise the boy from the dead (you can find the story in Acts 20). People seem to have perpetually remembered the bad sermon and forgot the miracle.

Today’s chapter is rife with an undercurrent of all these conflicts. Two, make that three, quick observations:

First, three times Paul references “some people.” He’s pointing at those who are questioning and criticizing him. Without naming names, he’s addressing the pissing match that he finds himself in that was not of his own making. It was “some people” within the Corinthian church who were promoting the authority and credentials of people like Peter, Apollos, and others while being mistrusting, critical, and dismissive of Paul. He didn’t ask for this, but he felt he needed to address it. Reading between the lines, Paul seems to have won the support and confidence of most of the Corinthian believers. That said, I’ve learned along my own life journey that there will always be “some people we must deal with.

Second, Paul speaks of not wanting to boast “about work already done in someone else’s territory.” The implication here is that different individuals had taken responsibility for different “territories.” Even when Paul was sent out by The Twelve in Jerusalem there was a distinctive territorial element. Paul was to go to the Gentiles outside of Israel and focused on Greece and Italy. Jesus’ brother, James, took leadership of the Jerusalem territory. Even around Corinth, there appears to have been some territorial designations of those sent to proclaim Jesus’ message and start churches. Even back in the early days of the Jesus Movement there were issues of boundaries, territory, and egos. People are people. There is nothing new under the sun.

Third, I couldn’t help notice that Paul continually uses the plural when referencing himself…

“We do not dare to…” (vs. 12)
“We, however, will not boast…” (vs. 13)
“We are not going too far…” (vs. 14)
“Neither do we go beyond our limits…” (vs. 15)
so that we can preach the gospel…” (vs. 16)

Paul has become a “we” that includes his colleagues Titus, Timothy, Luke, Barnabas, and others. This is subtle, but I also think it significant. Paul is not just representing himself in his letter, but an entire team of people dedicated to the spiritual well-being of the Corinthian believers. Today’s chapter begins with Paul referencing “the humility of Christ.” It strikes me that he exemplifies it in continually referencing that “he” is a “we.”

In the quiet this morning, I find in Paul a comrade who understands some of my own life experiences, like finding myself in pissing matches not of my own making. I also find in him an example to follow in how he handled them with humility and deference to the Lordship of Christ.

If you know anyone who might be encouraged by today’s post, please share.

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Giftedness and Honesty

Giftedness and Honesty (CaD 1 Cor 12) Wayfarer

Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good.
1 Corinthians 12:7 (NIV)

In the past several years, I’ve been surprised to have multiple clients ask me to mentor and coach individuals on their teams. In many cases, these individuals are young people in the early stages of their careers and having their first experiences in management. In other cases, I’ve been asked to come alongside someone who is struggling in their role and system around them is experiencing pain as a result.

I have found through these experiences that sometimes individuals simply need help in managing their time, improving their organizational skills, or learning how to better communicate with team members who have different temperaments or communication styles. On occasion, however, I have helped people discover that they are in a job for which they are not suited. They are a square peg in a round hole, and the mismatch has negative ripple effects across the team and the broader system.

When I discover that an individual and their job are not a good fit, things typically go one of two ways. If my protégé is frustrated and struggling with the job, it can be fairly easy to help them see that it would be a win-win for them and the entire company, if I help them navigate to a different position that better suits their individual strengths and desires. If, however, my protégé is thoroughly convinced that they are, in fact, a round peg that fits perfectly in this round hole job and they have everything they need for the task, my job becomes far more challenging.

In today’s chapter, Paul addresses the concept of spiritual gifts. It’s fairly simple. When a person receives Christ the indwelling Spirit infuses them with a spiritual gift or gifts so that every believer can provide particular acts of service and work for the good of the whole. Paul famously uses the human body as a metaphor. Depending on our individual gifts, we may be a different part of the body (e.g. eye, ear, hand, foot, and etc), but all parts are necessary for the body to function as a whole in a healthy way.

The problem, of course, is phenomenon I’ve witnessed consistently in my experiences in different churches as well as my experiences working with different businesses. I see individuals convinced that they are an eye, a gifted eye, despite being blind to the fact that they are most definitely an elbow. A body in which all of the parts know and embrace their unique and essential role in the functioning of the body will operate smoothly. A system in which parts are ignorant regarding their gifts, demand that they are gifted in ways they are not, and refuse to embrace the ways in which they are actually gifted will continually struggle to exist and operate in a healthy way.

In the quiet this morning, I’m reminded of my post the other day in which I’ve observed the unique ways that Wendy is gifted and has a “many, not me” way of approaching all things. I have different gifts than she does and I operate differently. We have, however, done the work to recognize and know our different gifts, temperaments, and ways of operation. We have learned to embrace not only our own unique gifts but also the unique gifts of the other. When our differences create conflict (and boy do they sometimes create conflict) we have worked to extend grace to one another and consciously choose to remember that different is not wrong. The good things our giftedness brings to the relationship far outweigh the challenges that arise from our differences, but it requires both of us to honestly and humbly embrace our own gifts as well each other’s.

If you know anyone who might be encouraged by today’s post, please share.

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The Many, Not Me

The Many, Not Me (CaD 1 Cor 10) Wayfarer

…even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.
1 Corinthians 10:33 (NIV)

Wendy and I have many, many differences. Quite often those differences are at odds with one another. Our brains are wired differently and it’s taken years for us to understand how the other one thinks. Of course, there are both strengths and weaknesses in how each of us think and operate.

Eight years ago Wendy directed a show for our local community theatre called The Christmas Post. It was the third time she’d directed it. It’s a great musical and Wendy is a great director. People loved it, and people loved being in it.

A few years ago Wendy was inducted into our community theatre’s Walk of Fame, and I had the honor of providing her induction speech. I shared my first experience of being around Wendy, which happened to be on stage. I was performing in South Pacific and she was the prop master. There was a scene in which I’m served a sandwich and she asked me what kind of sandwich I like so that she could make sure that every dress rehearsal and every performance I had a fresh sandwich that I liked on stage which she took the time to prepare herself.

That might not sound like a big deal to you, but this is theatre. This is community theatre. I’m used to prop people not even giving a single thought about that sandwich until the night of the first dress rehearsal when I have to ask them, “Where’s my sandwich?” They then run across the street to the Dollar Store to see if they happen to have an expired loaf of bread we can have for free or buy the cheapest loaf of white bread on the rack. They will then put two slices of white bread on the plate.

“No one’s in the audience is going to see that it’s just bread,” they’ll tell me.

By the end of the run the bread will have mold on it. Gross, but, I’m told “It’s okay. No one can see that!”

Wendy would never do that. She was in charge of props and she was going to ensure that if I was going to have a sandwich on stage it’s going to be a real sandwich, a fresh sandwich, and a sandwich I actually like and might even consider eating during the scene. It was the most considerate a stage crew member had ever been to me in my countless stage experiences. It was a small thing, but I was grateful, and impressed.

I shared in her induction speech a side of Wendy that few people see or appreciate. As her husband I watch her spend her time, energy, and resources thinking about everyone. And it’s not just with theatre. She does it with family, work, and friends. It’s so innate to her that she doesn’t even know that she’s doing it. She wants everyone to have a good experience and every detail of everything she plans is painstakingly thought through and structured so as to be considerate of the whole.

In today’s chapter, Paul once again reminds the believers in Corinth of the importance of being considerate of others. As he writes about his own approach, he describes Wendy: “not seeking my own good but the good of many.”

I confess that I am not naturally like that. I have always had a very active inner world and I live a lot of the time preoccupied inside my own head. One of the things Wendy has pointed out to me on numerous occasions is that I had an entire conversation with her inside my head and forgot that I didn’t actually have it with her in real life!

Mea culpa.

I have learned from Wendy’s example of thinking about the “many, not me.” It’s one of the first things that endeared me to her, and it’s one of the things I will forever try to learn from her, and emulate. It is so absolutely spot on with what Jesus tried to teach His disciples when He washed their feet on the night before He was executed. It’s what He exemplified to us all the next day when He became the sacrificial lamb for our sins.

It’s about the many, not me.

If you know anyone who might be encouraged by today’s post, please share.

These chapter-a-day blog posts are also available via podcast on all major podcast platforms including Apple, Google, and Spotify! Simply go to your podcast platform and search for “Wayfarer Tom Vander Well.” If it’s not on your platform, please let me know!