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Solitude Loving Extravert

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Morning quiet at the lake (Photo credit: Tom Vander Well)

At daybreak, Jesus went out to a solitary place.
Luke 4:42 (NIV)

When our daughters were in high school our family took the Myers-Briggs personality inventory together. We then spent a few hours with my friend, who is a marriage and family therapist, talking about the results. It was fascinating, not only to see each others results (I’m an ENFP), but also to understand our perceptions of one another. I remember that Madison was shocked to discover that I was an extrovert, and I was shocked that she would think I was an introvert.

“But every morning,” she explained, “you get up and spend time alone in quiet.” Based on that daily observation, she assumed that I was introverted. I’ve learned that extraversion and introversion are really about personal energy rather than being particularly social or shy. As an extrovert, I get energized by being around people and social situations. In fact, just the other week I shared with Wendy that being alone together at the lake for days on end had my personal energy tank on reserve. Spending a few hours at the pool around a crowd of people helped fill me up.

The truth is, my time of solitude each morning is not about recharging my personal batteries (in fact, it often causes me to miss out on much needed sleep) as much as it’s about keeping myself centered and finding balance. My entire day feels off-kilter when I miss my time of quiet to read, think, write, and have conversations of spirit with God. Sleeping in, for me, has always been accompanied with the grief of missing my time of solitude.

This morning’s chapter reminds me that Jesus liked his morning solitude, too. This morning, as I type this post in the early morning quiet of my hotel room, I am taking selfish pleasure in this trivial connection; Jesus and I have a mutual appreciation and understanding of morning solitude.

Chapter-a-Day Isaiah 55

Myers-Briggs. "I don't think the way you think. The way you work isn't the way I work." Isaiah 55:8 (MSG)

A few years ago I asked my wife and children to to an exercise with me. All four of us to the Myers-Briggs personality type indicator test. We then spent a Saturday morning with my friend Matthew going over the results and talking about each of our personalities. It was a very revealing experience for me and, I hope, for the rest of the family.

One of the things that I discovered as part of this process was that some of my children's perceptions of me were a far cry from reality. Children view their parents with blinders. This is part of the natural mode of life, and you don't begin to see your parents in a different perspective until your own life experience broadens. Part of the takeway for me in the experience was coming to the realization that my children did not have a complete picture of who their father was, and is. I didn't think the way they think.

What a great lesson for me to turn and apply to my own relationship with Father God. As I continue in the journey and experience broadens my perspective, I'm afforded a greater perspective of who He was, and is, and is to come. Yet, I must humbly and continually acknowledge that God's thinking and workings are beyond anything I can possibly fathom.

Creative Commons photo courtesy of Flickr and hillaryandanna