And you, my so-called friends, are no better— there's nothing to you! One look at a hard scene and you shrink in fear. Job 6:21 (MSG)
Going through a divorce is painful in a myriad of ways. As I reflect back on my own experiences, I'm struck by the range of reactions from my friends. The vast majority of people simply ducked their heads and avoided me, and the situation, all together. Believe me, I understand. It's hard to know what to say. People feel like they need to take sides. I've been guilty of the "duck and cover" many times.
Some friends were like Job's three buddies, confidently striding in to tell me all the ways I was sinfully wrong and demanding that I follow their prescribed path. While frustrated by them, I understand their approach, as well. I have quite a few merit badges in self-righteousness gathering dust in my scrapbooks from the old days. I get where they are coming from.
Then, I recall the few friends who simply stepped forward to walk with me along that stretch of the journey. They did not seek to blame or take sides. They neither condoned nor condemned. They simply loved and listened as we walked through the days, weeks and months. They modeled for me the very friend I wish to be.
If any of you are reading this. Thank you, again.