Sexual Healing

English: The Meeting of Isaac and Rebekah (Gen...
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Chapter-a-Day Genesis 24

And Isaac brought Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent, and she became his wife. He loved her deeply, and she was a special comfort to him after the death of his mother. Genesis 24:67 (NLT)

Back when I was in high school, one of our youth leaders stood before the youth group on a Wednesday night and railed angrily against the number one song on the Billboard charts at that time: Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye. She ranted and raved about how terrible of a song it was and what a lie it was to think that sex was the vehicle for any kind of healing. I look back on her fire and brimstone lecture and quietly shake my head with sadness. While I agree that sexual relationships that are out of bounds can be destructive, I also have learned that ol’ Marvin had a point. I’ve experienced the healing properties of a healthy sexual relationship and that’s a good thing.

One of the honest struggles I have with contemporary Christian culture and the organized church is what I would characterize as “limited conversation.” There are certain subjects and topics that we just don’t talk about. There are topics considered at best inappropriate and at worst downright sinful. At the top of the list of limited conversations is the topic of sex, which I’ve observed is generally constrained in Christian circles to the discussion of prohibited sexual activities/practices, conviction of sexual sin and whispered gossip about who is rumored to have done what with whom.

I find this limited conversation about sex very sad and very unhealthy. Sex plays such a huge role in our lives and relationships. I suppose one reason we tend to focus on the negative aspects of sex is because when sex bleeds out of bounds the wounds it creates for spirit, mind, body and relationship can be devastating.  But what we don’t talk about is that the opposite is also true. When husband and wife enjoy a healthy, active sex life the benefits to spirit, mind, body and relationship are enormous.

I can’t speak for others. I can only speak for myself. I have experienced the consequences of both unhealthy and healthy sexual relationships. I find the healing properties of a healthy sexual relationship to be so rich and potent that I want to talk about it. The truth of the matter is that there is both a physiological and spiritual alignment that takes place when I make love to my wife that calms the spirit, soothes the soul, and gives rest and refreshment to the body. There are times when life seems somehow out of whack, but in the sweet afterglow of sex I feel like I’ve just had a spiritual and emotional chiropractic adjustment. Things are back in line and all is right with the world.

What a beautiful description of Isaac and Rebekah’s relationship in today’s chapter. What a beautiful start to their life together. He takes Rebekah into his mother’s tent (the mother who had died, the mother he was deeply grieving) and she became his wife (fyi: they had sex) and she was a special comfort to him after the death of his mother. The healing virtues of Rebekah’s love and love making comforted Isaac and his life found restored alignment.

I believe that more open and honest conversation about healthy, active sexual relationship would lead to more husbands and wives experiencing the fullness of it. How wonderful it would be for more people to experience the healing properties of the sexual relationship rather than it becoming an infected wound within their marriage.

8 thoughts on “Sexual Healing”

  1. 42 “So today when I came to the spring, I prayed this prayer: ‘O Lord, God of my master, Abraham, please give me success on this mission. 43 See, I am standing here beside this spring. This is my request. When a young woman comes to draw water, I will say to her, “Please give me a little drink of water from your jug.” 44 If she says, “Yes, have a drink, and I will draw water for your camels, too,” let her be the one you have selected to be the wife of my master’s son.’

    This is an example of a very specific prayer for very specific circumstances. It reminds me that God cares about the intimate details of my life, and as a result, I can ask any small thing of Him and He will hear it. Thank you Jesus!


  2. It is unfortunate that we can’t engage in meaningful conversations about the ramifications of sex inside and outside of marriage, if for no other reason than we are losing our relevance to an entire generation of people who don’t know what we’re saying or why we’re saying it. Sexuality is too big of a cultural issue to not be engaged intelligently and pragmatically from a spiritual standpoint.
    This is an especially silent issue on the female front in Christianity. In recent years, people have finally started addressing issues like pornography and sex as they regard to men, but for whatever reason, women and teen/college girls are left with no conversation or help. The closest thing I’ve ever heard to addeessing female sexuality is the instruction to not read romance novels or watch Nicholas Sparks films. The result is that women end up more shamed about their sexuality than anyone and it becomes harder to open up about struggles and questions. I think you’re right. It’s time to step up and speak out.


    1. Well said! I’ve heard the same comment from other women – and I appreciate you giving witness. With two daughters (one married, the other reaching the age when it could be a reality), I desire for them to have a safe and open place for great conversation about sexuality so that they can experience the fullness of what it’s supposed to be.


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