Chapter-a-Day Proverbs 26

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A quarrelsome person starts fights 
      as easily as hot embers light charcoal or fire lights wood.
Proverbs 26:21 (NLT)

I’m a firm believer in discourse. I think dialogue is a healthy thing. As a blogger, I’ve had plenty of people disagree with me on various posts through the years. When people jot a comment to respectfully contradict, correct or state an opposite opinion I always approve the comment and will typically respond.

What I have little tolerance for, however, is the person good King Solomon describes as a “quarrelsome person.” I don’t believe in picking fights for the sake of fighting. I can’t stand the unnecessary stirring of the pot, demonizing of others, or bitter words meant as a verbal poke in the chest in challenge. That goes for people on either side of an issue, whether I happen to agree with their view of an issue or not. At one time in life I was a talk radio junkie, but I wearied of the bombastic monologues, incessant name calling and subversive barbs that seem necessary to make it on the air.

I sometimes think the internet and the blogosphere has enflamed and multiplied quarrelsome people of all persuasions by providing them opportunity to anonymously spread their own anger, hatred and vitriol. At least in my little corner of the blogosphere I get a chance to flag the quarrelsome person’s comment before anyone else sees it. I take my humble role as editor of comments seriously.

Today, I’m grateful for honest discourse among seekers of truth. I’m praying for discernment in my interactions with the quarrelsome people I encounter in life. I’m asking for the wisdom to know when to speak and when to be silent.

7 thoughts on “Chapter-a-Day Proverbs 26”

  1. I’ve always told my girls, “don’t argue with the Pharisees.” By which I mean, do not argue with those who turn and twist words (sadly, often Biblical words) to suit whatever their arguments are. When I am confronted with a whole mess of crazy, I back away carefully and do not even start to counter their arguments. You are not going to make people like that see reason and you will just enflame them by trying. Love your posts. You are a wise man.

  2. Amen! Thank you for saying what has been in my heart for years. People will only listen to “you” if you listen to them with the same respect and effort to understand their sincere views as you want to have from them. I have a friend who is a polar opposite on worldview and religion but is the first person I call when I need real help. Getting along with others is a decision we make in our “hearts” and civility is what sets us apart from animals who eat their young.

  3. Tom.

    WHY DO YOU USE THE NLT? I really have a hard time following along – don’t you know the the KIng James Version is the choice true Christ followers read, memorize and teach. #beingquarrelsomejustforfun

  4. Oops. Posted this to the wrong thing.

    23 Smooth[a] words may hide a wicked heart,
    just as a pretty glaze covers a clay pot.

    I’m a salesman. I can’t tell you the number of times my peers and I have been referred to as smooth talkers or some other negative reference. It comes with the territory because those for years before me acted like that. I have always prided myself in being honest and truthful in my dealings. I may not be the best salesperson, but I guarantee you that over the years that has gotten me more sales than I would dare count. Be real. Be yourself.

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