The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. Ephesians 5:23 (TM)
We were packing on Monday night for a long road trip. Packing is stressful work for anyone. It often sends my wife’s stress-o-meter to the red line. In the midst of the hustle and bustle of the task at hand, she stood in the hallway outside the bathroom. The hall light was off, so the bathroom created a shaft of light that illuminated her in an amazing way. I stood in the dining room looking at her. I don’t remember a word she said to me, but I remember how she looked. Her curls were ablaze in hues of amber and sienna. Her blue eyes shone.
"You’re beautiful," I said to her in response to whatever it was she was telling me.
The comment caught her off guard. For a moment, the stress melted away. Her face softened and became even more radiant as she smiled at my compliment.
I am often struck at the affect that my words have on my wife. I, long ago, made the decision to tell her what I’m thinking when her beauty strikes me, or her abilities, or her sexuality, or any of the other million characteristics that make me adore her.
You gain the respect of your spouse and children, when they know you cherish them.