Attraction | Wayfarer

30 Day Blogging Challenge Day 6: The person you like and why you like them.

Okay, I’ve struggled with this question for a day because it seems so similar to the other day’s challenge question regarding the kind of person who attracts you. Plus, the question is singular, while the number of persons I like is plural. I believe I’ve been overthinking this one. So, after a day of fairly minimal contemplation, I’m going to go with the person who popped into my mind first when I read the question, which is [shocking] my wife, Wendy.

I’ve already blogged about what attracts me physically, but what are the deeper things that make me like my wife? Here’s the short list:

She is full of life
She feels passionately (includes both the positive and negative)
She is a beautifully sensual person
She is honest and up-front with people; You never have to wonder where you stand with her
She is wise beyond her years
She enjoys watching the Cubs and Vikings with me
She is an amazing actor/director/producer and we are great partners both on stage and backstage
We love many of the same things and can have long, meaningful conversations about them because…
She’s a great conversationalist
She makes great cheesecake
Beneath what some may perceive to be a bristly exterior (see the bullet about feeling passionately) lies a heart that is among the most generous, compassionate and gracious I’ve ever known
I can live with her, work with her, rest with her, play with her, and sleep with her 24/7/365 and never tire of her presence or company
She loves me extremely well
Then there are reasons I like her which I’ll keep private and between us, thank you very much 😉

Okay, so I didn’t really explain what I’ve been doing the past few days. So for my regular readers, a little catch up and explanation: One of the most common frustrations for bloggers is sitting down at the computer and wondering “What am I going to blog about?” So, there are all of these “blogging challenges” out there which attempt to help bloggers break out of their writers block. I’ve never done one, though my daughter Taylor has done a few and I thought they were fun. So, I chose one in particular to try.

So…. the question “What kind of person attracts you” at first strikes me as a simple “what are the physical traits that visually attract you?” But, the question is so much larger than that. If we’re simply talking physical appearance, then I’d point you to my wife and best friend, to whom I’m very much attracted in the physical sense. She always reminds me of the lyrics to a little known song by Jackopierce:

“And that girl over there, she’s got mahogany hair,
and eyes of sweet amethyst.”

But attraction is so much more than physical, and the things that attract me to my wife in a broader sense are the same things that attract me to friends and acquaintances of all types. I think what attracts me to people is a certain measure of life that reveals itself in curiosity, contemplation, appreciation, and adventure. People I’m attracted to enjoy life in both the micro and the macro. They are people with whom you can sit down to dinner and still be sitting there in rapt conversation four hours later. They laugh much and feel deeply. Their world is so much bigger than themselves.